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From: "melodyhu33@yahoo.com.cn "

Her text message to me unedited…Keep in mind I can’t read Chinese.....doesnt she know that by now?

“我想用中文告诉你：虽然你不是一个好的男人，但你却是我有生以来最好的生日礼物，今年

生日我永生难忘，因为你的出现。你我虽是彼此生命中的过客，但你对我的意义却非同寻常

，我曾经差那么一点就爱上了你，你的所作所为又让我对你厌恶到了极点。我常常在想像你

这样的男人到底回爱上什么样的女人，什么女人才能征服你，你懂什么是爱吗抑或是你曾经

也伤的很深很深、、、、、、”

One thing is certain, since the beginning of time women have always been attracted to assholes.  They just don’t respect the nice guy who showers them with money and gifts.  Women love guys who treat them like shit.  Now I don’t enjoy hurting people so through trial and errors in my life I prefer having relationships only with married women or those with serious boyfriends.  But being very well endowded (for an Asian not a black guy) and skillful in bed does have its drawbacks.  Sometimes you bang em’ too good and they mistake that momentary feeling of ecstasy for love.  While that moment and other meaningless words of sweet nothings may mean the world to them…..its all in a days work for a player. 

Case study:  Melinda

Early 20s, always dressed fashionably, you could say she’s one of the “IT Girls” of Shanghai nightlife, Rich HK boyfriend who has bought several nice apartments all over China (what a nice guy huh?), a student a major university in Shanghai, she doesn’t work so I am assuming it’s the nice guy boyfriend providing a nice living allowance, She considers herself a 10 and I’ve never heard her say that anyone is even comparable in looks to her.  She obviously a very confident girl….well that is until I broke that confidence.

 So my second day in town one of this one local clown/”playboy” takes me to the new club that just opened in Xintiendi.  So as soon as a walk in I see Melinda’s friend Cynthia who reminds me of an ex I had in NY.  So local clown is dying to meet Melinda but of course is too scared to make the approach (surprise right?)  So I go over may small talk and chit chat with this girl I have absolutely no interest in.  I do meet 2 other girls I am interested in including a 6 foot girl are Harbin who will be the subject of another post another day….Local clown is too scared to ask for their numbers so I get their number and call it a night.  So almost immediately I’m getting calls and text messages every day from this Melinda girl.  This is my one big pet peeve….dont call or text me…if I want to see you, I’ll call you.   Day 4 and 5 in Shanghai are spent fucking Harbin girl, a model (so she said)/student who lived with her boyfriend but was spending nights at my place.  I actually felt bad for this guy since he kept calling all night to find out where so was.  We go to Attica, come back to my place and fuck.  But I really do not like fucking girls who aren’t hygienic down below.  I don’t like THAT smell…I had to stop.  I preferred sleeping actually.

 But anyways this Melinda wouldn’t stop calling so one day I just told Harbin girl to answer the phone and tell her I’m not around.  Well she stopped calling for a day or two and then the text messages starting going again.  I figured I have to just fuck her and get it over.  I go over to her place and her hot friend from the nightclub was there…3 some? I told her I wouldn’t sleep with her unless her friend joined in.  This girl insisted I not use a condom….. That a big no no for me.  So anyways we bang for a little while and she tells me she been dreaming of me and she love me, at this point i'm thinking this bitch is crazy!!!  I’m get the fuck out of here and hoping I never see her again.  I let a month go by before I return her call or texts again.  American girls get it when you don’t return calls….Chinese don’t seem to get the message quite as clearly and want explanations on why you don’t like them.

 So I go to her birthday party at Muse go home with her but refuse to fuck this time… At this point I’m just total asshole.  I tell her the only way I stay with you tonight is if I cum in your mouth or your face, I’m not going to fuck you.   And she has this annoying entourage herself (sister, 2 Cynthias, 1 web bar owner) that seem to go everywhere she is.  They were sleeping at her place but I tell to kick them out or else I’m going home.  So I did my business and then I left….I was as arrogant I could possibly be hoping that the calls and the messages would stop at the point. 

I’ve used this method plenty of times in plenty of countries….. It never works.  They just take the abuse and keep coming back for more.  The more attractive the girl the more insecure they are and the more they crave approval.    They certainly not used to people treating them like crap but for some reason it always turns them on.  Beautiful girls always feel like they have to win you over in over to regain that sense of entitlement.  Even if they don’t actually want you….they want to know it their choice. 

Back to her….To be honest she is still the smartest girl I’ve met in China, shes a very talented writer and has the most going for her of anyone I’ve met in this country.  It does make you wonder why girls like her always fall for guys like me?????  I guess that’s the way it was, way it is and the way it will always be.  Her only crime was that she called me way too much….But she has very bright future as long as she stays away from guys like me.    In the aftermath of our little time together II thinks she a little more cynical of the worlds and I think I’ve created a monster….Even when I’m was with her she got calls and texts from guy all day…  Shes taken up my approach now.  to ignore or insult people now.  Oh...and i hear this local clown/"playboy" is still calling them trying to romance all 3 of the girls.

She sent me this text message even though I can’t read Chinese.  I don’t know what it says but it doesn’t matter what it says.  Once I completely ignore a girl and cut her off I usually get a message like this shortly after.  I’ve gotten messages like this in English and Spanish in the past so this message I’m sure was no different.

  --Forwarded Message Attachment--
Date: Sun, 15 Apr 2007 15:37:05 +0800
From: melodyhu33@yahoo.com.cn
Subject: 转发：melody
To: mikelo77@yahoo.com

 
 
 
Hey what's the matter with you? why you sent e-mail to
John to tell him about us? what's the benefit to you?
do you know how to respect people? yes, i admit i
really like you and i had sex with you easily(which is
nothing wrong with people have sex with somebody they
really like at the first time), but that not means i
can have sex with any man easilly. actrually i don't
care what others think about me although you told
them that i'm a bad girl and easy to get bed(i really
don't think gentleman should do this). i thought you
are a cool and smart guy,now i know i was totally
wrong. i'm so disappoint at you.i'll never ever
contact with both you and john which is the result you
happy with.
 
 

This John (j.aryananda@synergyca.com)  is a real pussy!!! Falling in love with a hoe. I came in her mouth in XTD